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How to Win an Argument

Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry.- James 1:19

Have you ever found yourself in a heated conversation where you had to bite your tongue before making a statement?

No matter how hard you wanted to go off on that individual and speak your mind, you felt in your gut that an argument would do nothing but make matters worst.

Walking away from the situation your flesh felt defeated, but your inner self felt victorious.

Does this scene seem familiar?

Trust and believe that it was not just you coming up with such crafty idea, but it was God physically moving inside of you to make an ethical decision.

In the Bible, James provides us with a letter originally written to “twelve tribes scattered abroad” (James 1:1) who were referred to as Jewish Christians. These Christians resided in and around Israel and at the time they were going through various trials that dealt with self-confidence, pride, and anger issues. (Hmmm, sounds like us doesn’t it?)

Well, given to him by God, in verse 19, James points out to the Jewish Christians the key qualities they needed to make it through any argument or any trial. These qualities suggested that if they were eager to listen to their opponent’s side of the story, response slowly, but only after taking heed to what their opponent said and managing to keep a cool head no matter what the opponent’s response was, then they would indeed win the argument or make it through any trial.

They were then informed that the trials they went through would be difficult, but through them, they would produce patience and wisdom (James 1:3-4).

Although this letter was written eons ago to a selected group, it still applies to us. So keep in mind that when you are tried by someone and manage to turn the other cheek, you may not receive recognition from man, God will make it known that you have kept the faith and because of that He will bless you.

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Erica Relaford is the founder of As a strong woman of God, Erica is willing to spread the Gospel to all who walk in her path . Outside of her career as a teacher, mentor and motivational speaker, in her free time, Erica loves to travel, cook and spend time with family and friends.

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